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People, don't ask me for help or advice for the next few days. My ex-girlfriend asked me for advice concerning her current relationship with her fiance. (She told me she didn't trust him because he has issues...or something. That's the short story. Don't get me started on the long story.) Then, an old friend is talking to me (at this very moment) about how her ex-fiance committed suicide while they were still together. (I'm not going to disclose why so don't ask.)

Let's just say my capacity for sympathy is at its breaking point. So please, don't ask me for help or advice, okay?

Thank you. (Big-Will, please lock this thread after I post it. Also, if I deserve to get banned for this, that's fine. I'll accept the punishment. I just needed to vent.)

I understand completely man, people always seem to want to talk about their problems to other people. Tell you what, if you need help with anything, just ask. I'm always willing to lend a helping hand to a friend.

I appreciate it, man. But it's probably nothing that a good night's sleep can't cure. And frankly, I usually don't mind helping people out with their problems. In fact, I actually like doing so. It's just a little overwhelming and suffocating at times is all.

Hell, we've all been there. Best you can do is unplug/turn off your phone disconnect your doorbell and unwind with constant stream of mindless television for a few days. If nothing else, indulge in some good hardcore porn. That should snap you out of your funk. Hell, reading the titles alone can do that.

The closest thing to pornography for me is women's professional tennis so...yeah. I'm good. Thanks for the suggestion though. And trust me, I've already done everything else you've suggested save for the vegging on TV part. I plan on doing that tomorrow and the next day.

Okay. I'm going to bed now. Later.

Ahahahaha, a girl wants advice from an ex-boyfriend on how to deal with a guy she's going to marry??? Where's my popcorn?

You attract some weird-ass bitches, mang.

Hah! Don't get me started on MY ex-girlfriend. I can make a movie on that bitch. That whole experience took me a couple years to recover from. She was like bipolar disorder meets Her Majesty Queen Drama.

And what about that girl that offered to blow me...when she had braces on? Fuck that, man. That would have fuckin' hurt.

I have known people you have had the kind of feelings you described..Sometimes, people just aren't up to giving people advice or help, because maybe too many people ask for it from them. Friends are suppost to be there for friends, but when you have too many people needing help at the same time, or in my case with a certain stalker, someone always going to you with problems but never taking advice and fixing them and not listening to your problems in return, it can be a real drain on your energy. You probably do need a break...Do something you consider fun and relax. Stay away from drama for awhile.

Don't remind me. I'm what some people would consider the so-called "nice guy/best friend/great husband material with all kinds of helpful advice" kind of adult human male. My main problem is not only do I care about people, but at times, I care too damn much, especially about the overall well-being of women.

Perhaps I should turn into the other extreme: The assh*le who knows nothing and doesn't care at all. What do you think?

M00n: That's just it though. I'm a friggin' drama magnet. Yay.

i vote you use colorful euphemisms in telling them to bugger off because you've reached your emotional limit of sharp stick poking for the next six months.

but if you're inclined to help:

girl #1- nope, can't think of any valid reason to want to offer any help to someone who appears to be acting pretty damn manipulative. if she has trust issues, why'd she say yes and accept a ring. people. eesh.

girl #2- if it's legitimate bumming out over what happened, go to http://www.forsuicidesurvivors.com/counseling-for-survivors-of-suicide.html. if it's not legitimate bumming out, may she rot in all seven levels of hell for being a manipulative harpy.

Girl 1 - As far as I know, when she said yes, there weren't any trust issues. They arose as the relationship progressed further. (Of course, I probably should've just said "look, you pushed me away while we were together even though I tried to help you. What makes you think I'm going to help you after that?" But I didn't because I didn't think it. Like I've said. I'm too nice. But yeah, she does seem to be pretty manipulative.

Girl 2 - It's legitimate. I'll be sure to pass the website along to her so she can get the help herself. I'm just sympathetically worn out...and as usual, I did it to myself.

I'm not laughing, but yeah, I agree.

G-Sham, dude, you may not realize it, but you have self-esteem issues. Your ex-girlfriend, who as I recall, broke up with you and you still kind of have feelings for, is an self-centered bitch who you should completely remove from your life.

By continuing to deal with her and her emotions that she can't handle herself, you're playing the role of "emotional tampon." You may be thinking you're a good guy for being a sympathetic ear, but in reality, you're letting this bitch continue to mess up your own feelings by getting tangled in her bullsh*t that should be none of your concern.

I don't care what feelings you think you have for her "as a friend" - tell her you feel its best for you both if you "spend some time apart." Use that as a doorway out of her life because no one needs that sh*t. Find a new girlfriend who deserves your empathy, or at least stop this bitch from draining and wasting your emotional energy. Life is too short.

Sorry to be so terse, but you need to learn this lesson now before you learn the hard way by experience.

You're right, Pip. I shouldn't let her drain my energy. As for having romantic feelings for her, thankfully, that's no longer the case. I'm moving on. (Of course, this bullcrap doesn't help.)

Yeah, next time someone asks you for relationship advice, just blow 'em off. You've been a doormat for a while now; get up and walk away. Just walk away...

I'm with you! I'm a drama magnet too. Gem, I think I speak for all of us in this thread when I say if you need to vent about anything or someone to talk to, we're here for you. I know for me it's easy to tell strangers or people I meet online about a tough situation because they are an outsider and they can't be biased.

I know I have friends that ask me for help with their relationships. Right now a good guy friend of mine is having trouble with his bipolar drug addicted girlfriend. I give him advise. He doesn't take it. Then he complains that he didn't take it. *sigh* It's emotionally draining for him being in that relationship, and for me watching him be in that relationship.

But anyway... we're here for you!